The last two parts of my personality that I’d like to talk about revolve around two of my favorite subjects. Religion and Sex. Someone once told me that on the first date you should never discuss politics, religion, or sex. Well I never really stuck to that. Avoiding politics is easy. I HATE Politics. But Religion and Sex are two of my favorite conversations. Notice I said con-ver-sations. I don’t preach to people about my beliefs and I don’t want to be preached to. I won’t try to change you if you don’t try and change me. That’s not to say that I don’t like a bit of a debate here and there just don’t expect me to convert to whichever mystical being or abstinence program you believe in. With that in mind here are my thoughts.
The Pastafarian. I am agnostic in nature. I believe that there is some sort of higher power out there I just don’t know what the fuck it is. I was in Catholic school for 13 years. I listened in their classes, I followed their rules, and I even took part in their ceremonies. But all throughout my years I have never felt like I belonged there. Christianity just didn’t answer the questions I had; placing too much stock in the idea that if you didn’t believe you were weak.
I also find quite a bit of hypocrisy in it all. Turn the other cheek but stone them if they don’t believe. I look beyond the sins of some of the clergy and realize that some of the most heinous crimes committed have been in the name of someone’s god. Why? Millions if not Billions have died because someone believed that their god wanted them to “cleanse the nonbelievers”. It’s ridiculous.
However it is hard not to believe in a greater power when you stand atop a mountain you had just spent hours climbing and see the vast beauty that is the world. Blue skies, white clouds, all cast off the greens and browns of a landscape. There is a balance and beauty there that nature itself could not do on it’s own.
A little over a year ago I discovered a “religion” (some call a mock-ligion) that spoke to me as a concerned citizen and smart-ass. Pastfarianism is sarcastic look faith. (www.venganza.org) It’s constituents are on a mission to keep other religions from taking over our society. Intellegent Design should not be taught in science class. Yes I know I said I believe in a higher power however my beliefs are not based on some form of tangible evidence that Science requires. Just because a public or government agency places a menorah outside of their building does not mean they are required to place a Christmas Tree there as well. If a member of that agency wishes to do so then that is their choice but you as a person can not drive by their building, be offended, and demand they do so. If you’re offended look the other way or better yet take a different route next time.
RAmen!
Ok getting off my agnostic soapbox and pulling out my next one.
The Swinger. Yes you read it correctly. (This is where I will lose a lot of readers and gain a whole new demographic.) My wife and I are swingers. It is true that we enjoy playgrounds and the occasional baseball game but that is not what I am referring to. In this case I am saying that my wife and I enjoy having sexual interaction with other people outside of the two of us.
*GASP**SHOCK**HORROR* *DAMNATION*
We’ve heard them all. In a nut shell I will lay it out for you. My wife and I have been together for a dozen years. When we got married we were the only person we had had intercourse with was each other and we were very happy with that. If either of us wanted to go back to that lifestyle we would be very happy still. We have always had an openly expressed and adventurous sex life, both of us affording our relationship the ability to experience all the fantasies we desired. Why go through life if you can’t live it.
In school we were both very goal oriented forgoing parties and events to focus on our studies or careers. After we got married we both longed for wilder times. We had no desire to settle down and have kids just yet. We have a great house and both have great careers. We were established and now wanted to enjoy the world.
Almost 3 years ago we found ourselves pushing boundaries we had never thought of pushing, all the while pushing them together hand in hand. In a story I may or may not tell in the future we found ourselves joining a lifestyle we didn’t know existed. Despite the overall outcome of these events we found we really enjoyed the experience and it had brought us even close then we had been before.
A few months and a ton of research later we decided to try a new experience. And in a move which many would consider jumping in head first we took a trip to a resort catered towards members of the nudist and swinger lifestyles. Over that time we had also decided to become what is known as “soft swap swingers”. This means that when “playing” with another couple we can do anything but penetrative intercourse. Kissing, fingering, oral, all are on the table however only my cock can go in my wife’s pussy and rightfully so it can not go in any other pussy. Basically we have foreplay with the other couple then fuck our own spouses. This is not to say that we didn’t enjoy “full swapping’ our first time. We just wanted to take a step back and try everything one step at a time.
We met many GREAT couples on that trip and found we had more in common with them then friends we had known for many years. Because most of these people lived in other parts of the world we were only able to keep in touch via the internet. We still consider some of those people our closest friends.
We got caught up in our day to day life however we fed on that experience and used it as sexual energy and fantasy fodder for months. Over the course of which we did get to attend a local party with a couple we had met on vacation but we stayed with them all night. Month’s later we needed a night out desperately and decided to go out to a party on our own. We had a great time and met a lot of cool people but were still a bit shy. The next morning we met a couple at breakfast and instantly became the best of friends. They have taught us a lot about the lifestyle and helped us learn a lot about ourselves.
Since then we have met many couples that we hang out with all the time. We have found people of a similar mindset that just “get us”. We don’t always play. In fact I’d say less then half the time we see these people does any form of extra-marital activity happen. We just enjoy being together.
If you’ve read this far then I know you are not OVERLY offended by anything I said and I will let you know this. This blog will not be a pedestal for me to stand on and preach about my beliefs on any one subject including Religion and Sex. I will be talking about many things that go on in my day to day life. It is true that these topics will come up because they are part of my day to day life and a part of who I am.
Hope you’ve enjoyed so far. I know I have.
RAmen and great Sex To You
~Jack
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